Saturday, March 07, 2009

Fatal Distraction

Imagine the horror when a parent realizes they have left a child in a locked car. As our lives become increasingly stressful, will we see an increase of this tragedy?

Forgetting a child in the back seat of a hot, parked car is a horrifying, inexcusable mistake. But is it a crime? [...]

Two decades ago, this was relatively rare. But in the early 1990s, car-safety experts declared that passenger-side front airbags could kill children, and they recommended that child seats be moved to the back of the car; then, for even more safety for the very young, that the baby seats be pivoted to face the rear. If few foresaw the tragic consequence of the lessened visibility of the child . . . well, who can blame them? What kind of person forgets a baby?

The wealthy do, it turns out. And the poor, and the middle class. Parents of all ages and ethnicities do it. Mothers are just as likely to do it as fathers. It happens to the chronically absent-minded and to the fanatically organized, to the college-educated and to the marginally literate. In the last 10 years, it has happened to a dentist. A postal clerk. A social worker. A police officer. An accountant. A soldier. A paralegal. An electrician. A Protestant clergyman. A rabbinical student. A nurse. A construction worker. An assistant principal. It happened to a mental health counselor, a college professor and a pizza chef. It happened to a pediatrician. It happened to a rocket scientist.

Last year it happened three times in one day, the worst day so far in the worst year so far in a phenomenon that gives no sign of abating.

The facts in each case differ a little, but always there is the terrible moment when the parent realizes what he or she has done, often through a phone call from a spouse or caregiver. This is followed by a frantic sprint to the car. What awaits there is the worst thing in the world. [...]

There may be no act of human failing that more fundamentally challenges our society's views about crime, punishment, justice and mercy. According to statistics compiled by a national childs' safety advocacy group, in about 40 percent of cases authorities examine the evidence, determine that the child's death was a terrible accident -- a mistake of memory that delivers a lifelong sentence of guilt far greater than any a judge or jury could mete out -- and file no charges. In the other 60 percent of the cases, parsing essentially identical facts and applying them to essentially identical laws, authorities decide that the negligence was so great and the injury so grievous that it must be called a felony, and it must be aggressively pursued.
What do you think?

3 comments:

Fran said...

I have so many thoughts and feelings here that I would rather wait and come back after I process them. Given my own stress and time demands... I will just say a few words here and now.

First of all I am sitting here weeping and weeping.

I am reminded of the rally cries of our inexorably linked "pro-life/free-market" folks and the paradoxical relationship these stories have to that movement.

I am reminded of all the stupid things that I forget and how grateful I am that at the worst times of my life, I did not have a child. This could have happened to me. It could happen to anyone.

My heart breaks for the people who did this and have to live with it.

I feel discomfort about Lyn Balfour's decision to inseminate again and I wonder why I feel that way.

We cannot have it all. That is not meant to be some draconian-sackcloth-and-ashes proclamation. It is simply truth for me. Limits are not always barriers, they have purposes.

Our dualistic society with its either/or rather than both/and outlook creates a lot of monsters.

Such is the human condition, which is a bitter pill to swallow.

I am sorry if this makes no sense and that I am rambling.

Fran said...

And no- I do not think it should be a crime.

BAC said...

These stories are very disturbing to me, too, Fran. Our lives are so stressed that I can understand how this could happen.

I can't imagine there could be any punishment worse than knowing your actions contributed to the death of your child.


BAC